Love: is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection (“I love my mother”) to pleasure (“I loved that meal”). It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment. It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection—”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”. It may also describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one’s self or animals.
The above was Wikipedia’s description of Love. My favorite definition of Love is best defined in the Bible at (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous. It does not brag, does not get puffed up. does not behave indecently, does not look for it’s own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails….”
- Youth & Dating
Today marks my 20 Year Wedding Anniversary. I have no idea now to describe all the emotions this day brings with it. I have never been one to wear my heart on my sleeve , but as part of my Anniversary gift to Damon today I will go out on a limb and write the words that go off in my mind and live in my heart. It’s not going to be easy because well- I tend to be very private when it comes to this part of my life. I’m just plain shy but Ive always been good with writing my thoughts down, so today I surrender and will just let everything flow.
- My Mama – Words of Wisdom
The day before I got married my mama and I had a little conversation were she said “After tomorrow (my wedding) you will always be, working” which prompted me to ask “Working at what”? her candid and honest reply was “Your Marriage, you never stop working at this, just know you will always be having to work hard at keeping it healthy”. Little did I know at the time how profound these words would come to be. Because after all I was the ripe “Mature age of 23” and I just knew that I would be able handle this new commitment called marriage.
Oh if I could have had a conversation with that “Young girl” , who had her head buried deep in the clouds of love. We would have been up for hours talking about all the realities that marriage would bring into her life. I would have told her “Marriage isn’t for sissy’s” and when you reach your forties you will completely come to understand all of this candid advice very clearly.
- November 5, 1994
We married on a crisp beautiful fall day. Our wedding was held in the garden of the La Quinta Resort. A local landmark with beautiful grounds surrounded by the gorgeous Santa Rosa mountains of my childhood.
Mama worked tirelessly at all the big and small details of the day. All the way down to the the harpist and every last song she played. We where surrounded by all the people that we loved most in this world. It was just as I imagined it would be, walking down the path of love with papa by my side. Everything about that moment was pure utter joy and sweetness.
- “A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”
- -Dave Meurer
Is Marriage easy ? No
Will it challenge and test you to the core? Yes
Do you sometimes question if you are cut out for this job as a wife? All The Time
Is all the hard work worth it in the end? – Absolutely…..
In hindsight we really were two kids who had no idea what we where doing in the those early years together . We both carried strong personalities into this marriage. Yes there have been hundreds of thousands of times that we both sat back and looked at our world from two very different perspectives . Anyone remember the old self help book called “Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars”? It’s so funny that book came out the very same year we where married. I ran to the bookstore to buy it because I was totally convinced that “Yes, my man was from Mars” and Yes I had sometimes wished he stayed on Mars to begin with……(lol).
It wasn’t until a couple of years later that I found the perfect book that had all I needed in order to help guide me along in my journey of being a wife. It was sitting in my house the whole time I was out in search of finding the “Secret” to a happy married life.
That book was my Bible and in it was all directions on how to build a beautiful life with my beloved. In picking it up and reading all the timeless wisdom that it contained and more importantly by applying it in my day to day life with my husband I quickly began to see and appreciate that the Marriage Arrangement is a very beautiful gift. A gift that was created for us to treat with tender loving care, respect and kindness. Day in and day out. There is never a day off , you are always having to nurture each other in order to stay strong and connected.
- “You meet thousands of people and none of them really touch you, and then you meet one person and your life is changed forever.”
– Jamie Randall
Today I am thankful for the man I get to share life with. My beloved – My Hubs – My Mr. D- He has brought so much joy to my life. There is so much humor that lives in our house. I say this all the time but he is the “Funniest man in the world” to me. He is so strong, kind, compassionate, supportive, affectionate ,dependable, positive ,ambitious ,hard working, curious, adventurous, encouraging, loyal and stubborn all wrapped up into one extraordinary human being.
So in closing I say – I love you to the moon and back my precious Damon, thank you for giving me such a beautiful life. I honor our marriage and the journey of our first 20 years together. We are strong together – we are blessed.
- “Two drifters, off to see the world
There’s such a lot of world to see
We’re after that same rainbow’s end, waiting, round the bend
My Huckleberry Friend, Moon River, and me.”
- Audrey Hepburn – Moon River